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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 1:05 | |
| My husband & I have a tough day coming up on the 17th. We found out today that my husband's grandma passed away yesterday and the funeral is Tuesday the 17th. We are saddened by the loss of his grandma, but we are actually happy for her because now she is in Heaven with Jesus and no longer in pain (grandpa passed away in 2007 so she was alone). She had been suffering in a nursing home for a long time, so it is sort of a relief knowing she's not suffering anymore. However, the tough part of the day will be from a completely different source: my husband's estranged mother. Shortly after my husband & I got married, my in-law's marriage ended (it had been coming for years). In 2006 my MIL got remarried and has decided to shut everything out of her life that has anything to do with her first husband, my FIL. She treats my husband like dirt, she hasn't ever seen our youngest son Peter, she hasn't come to a birthday party since my [almost] 7-year-old's first birthday party in 2006, we invited her over many times and she doesn't even have the decency to say "no thanks". I am shocked she even called today to let my husband know his grandma had passed away since she didn't bother to let us know when she and her new husband got married. I am REALLY not looking forward to seeing her. I've already put my foot down that the kids will NOT be coming with us to the funeral because my MIL does not deserve the pleasure of seeing them now after ignoring them for 5 years. Please pray that we will keep Christ-like character and not let her get under our skin. At least I can be glad that this isn't going to happen a day later because Wednesday is my birthday. Still, this isn't exactly how I wanted to spend the day before my birthday. | |
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babyblossom Advanced Walker
Posts : 3799 Join date : 2011-04-25 Age : 49 Location : Queensland, Australia
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 1:23 | |
| Rachel I'm sorry to hear about your hubby's grandma. You are right, it is more easily accepted when they are in pain. She will be now with her husband I'm sure.
I know what it's like being estranged from your mil. I don't think a funeral is the place for children anyway but that's entirely up to you. I will pray for you all that you have a nice day rembering the happy times of her life and that your mil doesn't push you to do or say anything you don't want to.
I know how you feel about your birthday too. My little boy was born and died on my nephew's birthday and his funeral was on my brother in law's birthday. Unfortunately we couldn't have it any other day because of the Minister's other commitments | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
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passionatereborner Steady Walker
Posts : 1306 Join date : 2011-11-18 Age : 57 Location : United States
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 1:28 | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 1:32 | |
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rebecca Advanced Walker
Posts : 5158 Join date : 2009-11-01 Age : 70 Location : Gadsden Alabama
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 1:35 | |
| You have my prayers Rachel, just think though over all the sorrow your family feels and I know she will be missed but she is in a better place even though it doesn't make missing her any easier. | |
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| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 11:56 | |
| I will be praying for ya'll! Sometimes dealing with family is harder than anything else!! I pray it goes smoothly! |
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Poppy Advanced Walker
Posts : 7408 Join date : 2009-10-20 Age : 45 Location : New Zealand
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 18:02 | |
| Praying for you all to Rachel, hope it all goes smoothly | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 18:11 | |
| Than-you, ladies! | |
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Trish Advanced Walker
Posts : 2082 Join date : 2011-05-13 Age : 86 Location : Geelong, Australia
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 20:06 | |
| Just remember Grandma for who and what she was............don't worry about MIL........you can ignore her if necessary, or just say "I am sorry, but this is not the place or time to discuss this matter" and leave it at that Hope it all turns out well for you. | |
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Groovyday Advanced Walker
Posts : 3001 Join date : 2011-01-31 Age : 71 Location : Tucson, Arizona
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 20:56 | |
| Rachel, offering prayers for you and your husband. I agree with Kym. Make it a day to remember the life of your husband's grandmother. Rise above any of the childish antics your husband's mom may throw your way. Offer her a polite condolence and then move on. I will not waste time talking about her, but my mil was "something else" and that is how I learned to handle her, just rise above it and don't lower yourself to her behavior. Others will walk away thinking of her behavior, not yours. | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 20:58 | |
| Thanks, Trish and Barb. I was pretty much thinking what you said, Trish. It's just I hope that I don't lose it and "snap"... | |
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tanya1975 Advanced Walker
Posts : 1778 Join date : 2011-02-02 Age : 48 Location : Arizona
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 22:31 | |
| I am so sorry for this,try to ignore her,you will have my prayers Rachel too. I hope my birthday present will make you feel better | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Sun 15 Jan 2012 - 23:40 | |
| Thank-you, Tanya, I'm sure it will! | |
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hazel_may(Janie) Steady Walker
Posts : 873 Join date : 2009-11-02 Age : 63 Location : SE Minnesota
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Mon 16 Jan 2012 - 3:20 | |
| I'm sorry your family has lost your husband's grandmother. I will pray for your family, Rachel, including your MIL. | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Mon 16 Jan 2012 - 12:43 | |
| Thank-you, Janie. We pray for my MIL a lot, even though she's decided to treat us this way, she still is my husband's mother. | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Tue 17 Jan 2012 - 19:24 | |
| The funeral is over, thank the Lord. When we first walked in, my husband's mom ignored us, but started talking about how we wouldn't let her see her grandchildren (her choice not to see them, not ours) to a woman that was standing next to her...right behind us like we weren't even there. I ignored it. After the service, my husband turned to me and started sobbing, so I hugged him tight and gave him kisses on his cheek. When I opened my eyes again, MIL was right there like I couldn't console my husband well enough, she had to do it (never mind the last 5 years she totally ignored him). But, I ignored it. When we went to leave, my husband said goodbye to he, she hugged him and then left her arms tight around his neck while she made him promise to get together with her soon. I felt like shouting to her that it wasn't OUR fault we haven't gotten together. I've invited her to birthday parties for the kids, holidays, etc. I've sent her a birthday card, mother's day card, and Christmas card every year. We sent her a postcard with our new phone number and address when we moved. Nothing from her. I ignored it. Today was about Grandma. And that was it. Thanks for all the prayers. | |
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babyblossom Advanced Walker
Posts : 3799 Join date : 2011-04-25 Age : 49 Location : Queensland, Australia
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Tue 17 Jan 2012 - 19:28 | |
| I'm glad it's over Rachel. I hope you were all able to remember the happy times with her. I'm not surprised your MIL said those things to the lady next to her. She sounds a lot like my mil, with everything you told us about her not coming to kids birthdays etc etc. All I can say is ignore her. Don't allow yourselves to come down to her level. Your own little family is what's important and you're all better off without her rubbish | |
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LittlePunkins Advanced Walker
Posts : 2017 Join date : 2011-05-16 Age : 68 Location : Sweet Home Alabama
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Tue 17 Jan 2012 - 19:37 | |
| - Orange_Grove_Nursery wrote:
- The funeral is over, thank the Lord. When we first walked in, my husband's mom ignored us, but started talking about how we wouldn't let her see her grandchildren (her choice not to see them, not ours) to a woman that was standing next to her...right behind us like we weren't even there. I ignored it. After the service, my husband turned to me and started sobbing, so I hugged him tight and gave him kisses on his cheek. When I opened my eyes again, MIL was right there like I couldn't console my husband well enough, she had to do it (never mind the last 5 years she totally ignored him). But, I ignored it. When we went to leave, my husband said goodbye to he, she hugged him and then left her arms tight around his neck while she made him promise to get together with her soon. I felt like shouting to her that it wasn't OUR fault we haven't gotten together. I've invited her to birthday parties for the kids, holidays, etc. I've sent her a birthday card, mother's day card, and Christmas card every year. We sent her a postcard with our new phone number and address when we moved. Nothing from her. I ignored it. Today was about Grandma. And that was it.
Thanks for all the prayers. Good for you Rachel..... Sometimes a death can bring people closer together. Maybe she will wake up and realize what she is missing.... | |
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Groovyday Advanced Walker
Posts : 3001 Join date : 2011-01-31 Age : 71 Location : Tucson, Arizona
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Tue 17 Jan 2012 - 20:32 | |
| Rachel, so happy the funeral is over. You did the right thing by ignoring her untrue comments made clearly within your hearing but not to your face. My mil was very good at using that tactic. I always waited until we were alone if I chose to comeback at her but learned over the years it was pointless. The day was for your husband`s grandmother and your mil wanted to egg you on by making that comment. So glad you and your husband got through the day as proper mourners instead of fuel for your mil`s next outburst. | |
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Orange_Grove_Nursery Advanced Walker
Posts : 10369 Join date : 2011-05-31 Age : 49 Location : Greenville, Michigan
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Wed 18 Jan 2012 - 1:17 | |
| Thank-you, ladies. | |
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Poppy Advanced Walker
Posts : 7408 Join date : 2009-10-20 Age : 45 Location : New Zealand
| Subject: Re: Please pray for us. Wed 18 Jan 2012 - 4:37 | |
| I'm so glad you all got through the day ok, you did so well to ignore her behaviour | |
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